Don't know about you, but I have always tensed up while I ride; death grip and high shoulders. Trying to relax only works for the few seconds I manage to think about it. This winter, since I am riding every day, I have practiced relaxation a lot. And I have improved; my hands are now just laying there on the grips and my shoulders are lower. But I still notice that my elbows tighten a little as soon as I lose focus on keeping them slack, and with the elbows the shoulders come up a bit. So I need to continue the drill until it is second nature. It seems like it will take more than 6 months to unlearn 40 year old bad habits, though. What about you - do you find it easy to stay relaxed at all times while riding?